1. 00:00:00:00 - 01:00:54:04

Narrator:

About ten years ago, my mother decided that the straight and narrow path into old age wasn’t for her. Determined to be more than a wife and mother, she marched right into the heart of her own Catholic girl fears: sexual exploration. It was a courageous step for a onetime debutante from Grosse Pointe, Michigan.

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2. 01:00:54:04 - 01:02:08:28

Maggie:

I started out doing work with dying people, helping people face this very extreme energy. I feel that my work with sexuality and my work with the dying are closely connected. They’re both very taboo subjects in our society. And I moved from that into something which is hugely ecstatic and fulfilling and wonderful and joyful, but it’s also taboo in our society. So I have gone sort of the spectrum from one extreme to the other; and I’m realizing that this is not going to go on for the next ten years, no way. I’ll do this for the next couple of years, but I’m already feeling that I’m not as ambitious as I was, that I’m not as anxious to reach the whole world. And I can really see the next curve coming, the next curve in the road. I always think: the curve comes, and if you make it, you can go gracefully through your life. But a lot of people, including myself, miss the curve.

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3. 01:02:25:00 - 01:02:39:29

Narrator:

I don’t think we can ever fully understand our own mothers. We set out to make a film about mom’s work as a sex teacher. Instead, we witnessed one of the most painful transitions of her life. I found it an inspiring, and sometimes very difficult, journey to watch. 

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4. 01:02:39:29 - 01:02:46:16

Maggie:

Come down and have an orgasm on the esplanade, in ten minutes I’ll be open for business. Girls only.

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5. 01:02:46:16 - 01:03:05:15

Narrator:

Most people would rather not think about their parents’ sex lives. Mom began telling me about hers when I was in college. She’d always been open about sex so I wasn’t particularly surprised or upset. I understood her need for soul-searching, what I couldn’t relate to was her need to shock people.

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6. 01:03:05:15 - 01:04:13:25

Maggie:

Testing, testing. This is the orgasmobile and I am the priestess of pleasure. I’m offering orgasm for any lady that has the courage to step inside and receive it. We have been programmed for years, for thousands, for millions of years, to always look at men’s pleasure, to focus on men’s pleasure. But this program tonight is a different one. We are focusing on women’s pleasure. The idea of the game is we have a vibrator, you are protected from sight so that the men do not see you, but they can hear you because you’re going to use my microphone. So climb in there… so, go for it. Ha ha. So the clock is running. She’s in there, making herself at home. Oh, that was quick. Wow look at all these people, isn’t this great. And who’s going to be number two?

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7. 01:04:13:25 - 01:04:15:20

Voice from crowd:

Make some noise in there!

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8. 01:04:15:20 - 01:04:17:00

Maggie:

You’re going to go next?

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9. 01:04:17:00 - 01:04:19:09

Voice from crowd:

No I wanna hear her make some noise

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10. 01:04:19:10 - 01:04:30:21

Maggie:

Yeah well she’s just getting warmed up. Yeah this is a challenge to really go for gold. We want to hear some really beautiful sounds coming out of there.

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11. 01:04:38:21 - 01:04:46:02

Maggie (speaking with woman):

Good show. … Thank you very much. … You’re very welcome. … Wow… Send your girlfriends by. … I need to go to the Porta-potty and blot.

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12. 01:04:46:02 - 01:05:18:07

Narrator:

Mom had lived in Switzerland for thirty years. She still did the sex party scene and, as a teacher, had become a recognized name among European self-help circles. There was a revolving group of assistants and admirers, but she usually taught as a one-woman show.

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13. 01:05:19:29 - 01:05:37:28

Maggie:

So just begin to notice how you’re sitting with your body, taking care that your spine is straight, your shoulders are relaxed, and we’re just very consciously releasing thinking.

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14. 01:05:40:09 - 01:05:53:19

Narrator:

After a lot of negotiating, we were finally permitted by the facility owners to shoot the workshops. Once they got over their initial discomfort, the women warmed up to us as well. Each had different motivations for joining the group.

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15. 01:05:53:19 - 01:05:59:04

Narrator:

Natalie was an outspoken feminist, a photographer, and self-defense teacher.

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16. 01:06:00:04 - 01:06:22:10

Natalie:

Sisterhood … I was looking for sisterhood, a sense of belonging. And that’s how I cam upon Maggie and quickly sensed that she’s exploring the same areas as myself. A fellow woman, a sister, that’s what Maggie is.

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17. 01:06:27:24 - 01:06:31:28

Narrator:

Heidi was a mother of three who struggled to keep up with her husband’s sexual appetite.

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18. 01:06:39:06 - 01:07:02:02

Heidi:

I’m interested in these themes: sexuality and the spirituality, because the two parts are always separated in our culture especially. I grew up with the same themes, so sexuality is no-no, and spirituality is prayer to god.

19. 01:07:03:02 - 01:07:05:29

Narrator:

At 68, Ursula was the oldest member of the group.

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20. 01:07:05:29 - 01:07:34:00

Ursula:

You know, I’m in a boat and my husband is in a boat and we are going the river long. And if we like we come together. We have pleasure and have a certain time together. But then we go back to our own trip and we … we are not drifting apart, but everybody is free to make the things he likes.

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21. 01:07:40:00 - 01:07:49:26

Narrator:

Lilith was a seminar addict. Her boyfriend Claus, although he did his best to conceal it, wasn’t too thrilled about her joining mom’s workshop.

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22. 01:08:06:00 - 01:08:40:09

Lilith:

It was really hard for me because I felt I have to do this workshop. It will benefit me and my partnership. A lot of feelings are coming up. Sadness and I’m nervous. There is a feeling that this is exactly what I need to do and still, there is fear, a lot of fear. And I can’t explain it.

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23. 01:08:40:09 - 01:09:03:09

Maggie:

And then slowly, when you feel ready, begin to come back into the here and now. When you’re really ready, stretch, open your eyes, and come completely back refreshed and ready for the day.

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24. 01:09:14:06 - 01:09:47:18

Narrator:

A couple years ago, mom had a full facelift. After surgery, she hemorrhaged and her face puffed up with blood. She was black and blue, and then yellow, for weeks. My brother cried when he picked her up at the hospital. Of course, after a few years, the wrinkles returned and she talked about getting more work done. So here it was: the huge contradiction I just couldn’t wrap my mind around. She preached sexual freedom yet her heart was breaking because men didn’t look at her the way they used to.  

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25. 01:09:52:03 - 01:09:57:00

Narrator:

Mom’s second husband, Carl, is an architect. They’ve been married seventeen years.

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26. 01:09:57:00 - 01:10:26:24

Carl:

We met when I was fifty and she was forty. We had a new trip into experiencing sexuality as one of the energies of life and not as a social act. We were free at that time and were respectful for each other to live that part of our selves

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27. 01:10:28:27 - 01:10:32:28

Narrator:

She calls him the love of her life. They had a lot of fun together.

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28. 01:10:32:28 - 01:11:00:12

Carl:

It was crazy, and it was sort of, I don’t know anybody who has a partner like I have. But it didn’t feel that it was in any way creating a situation which I felt endangered.

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29. 01:11:02:12 - 01:11:25:08

Narrator:

Meanwhile, Carl’s body was falling apart because of old running injuries. I watched as he cocooned himself away with his pain and mom desperately held on to what their relationship had once been. There was a bright light in her life though: my brother Arlo, and his wife Paola, were expecting their first child. Mom was so excited about becoming a grandmother.

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30. 01:11:30:08 - 01:11:52:08

Maggie:

I guess you don’t need two. Do you need blindfolds or do you have blindfolds? … I have these here … You know, because we’re so many, you’re going to have to do not so many long ones. Maybe the first one you do … then you have to just to small tyings or what?

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31. 01:11:52:08 - 01:12:26:19

Bondage master:

To me it’s really important for people who see this, especially bondage, I mean this is a small part of Maggie’s training with the women, but especially this bondage has nothing to do with cruel, SM things. This is really something else. You can mix it but you don’t have to.

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32. 01:12:40:15 - 01:13:13:06

Bondage master:

This way of bondage I do is more Japanese bondage. In the US, in the SM groups, they do also bondage but they use different techniques. Most of the time they use a very long, long rope and then they put the rope around the body. And I use many small ropes and it’s a different type of knots also.

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33. 01:13:24:15 - 01:13:32:23

Maggie (to bondage master):

We’re not ready yet …

Not ready yet? …

Wait till you see these women …

I’m already getting warm …

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34. 01:13:45:15 - 01:13:53:07

Maggie:

May I present my priestesses … Master Pierre … and his assistant, Urs.

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35. 01:17:51:06 - 01:18:41:29

Bondage master:

It’s not comfortable. You don’t have to feel comfortable in a way that I’m sitting here and it’s comfortable. It has a certain, um, it has to restrain, you have to feel the power of the ropes. That’s the thinking of this bondage. That you really have a feeling that I can’t move anymore. It is a good feeling to give up completely your body to someone and to really have these ropes on your body and be tied. It’s a very good feeling.

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36. 01:18:41:29 - 01:19:30:11

Silke:

I was totally amazed. It was so fascinating for me. He was like a master of healing for me. Like the master in body work for sexual healing but also healing for your whole personality. He was able to find the beauty of each woman which was very special. And yes I could really see the woman in a new way, like a sculpture.

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37. 01:19:40:24 - 01:21:01:24

Maggie:

There’s one specific theme that runs through everything that I do and that’s my exhibitionism. Lot of people think that exhibitionism is about dirty old men hiding in the park exposing their penis to little girls. For me exhibitionism is something completely different. When I was a little girl, one of the things I did, I learned very early in my life that if I was charming and delightful and smiled, I would really be loved and appreciated. As an adult I discovered this is a very natural thing for me to show myself. My motivation is different. I’m not trying to get people to love me and appreciate me. What I’m trying to do is show people who I really am. It gives me a tremendous amount of joy to believe that I’m not just living the part that’s acceptable, that’s approved of by society and my culture. But that I’m really able to live the side of myself that a lot of people don’t like and don’t approve of but that is important for me.

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38. 01:21:16:00 - 01:23:26:16

Maggie:

I was raised in a home that was sort of like pulsating with sexual energy. My parents loved each other a lot and both were very sexy and lived their sexuality and embraced and kissed in front of us a lot. My father was a doctor and it was very important for him that all of us six children understood about sexuality, understood about love, understood about marriage and what it was. But in a very careful ethical way that was appropriate for that time. He had be educated by the Jesuits so he had a strong religious background. And then when I was sixteen, seventeen, and my sexuality suddenly--boink--awakened in me, I was confronted, as are most people, with the reality that it’s okay to be sexual but it’s really best if you wait until you’re married. And of course that was ridiculous for me, there was no way I was going to do that. And then maybe fifteen years ago I suddenly realized I had to go very much off onto my own personal path of healing and self-discovery brought on primarily by physical illness. I had developed tumors in my belly. And, after having surgery, set off on a path to discover how can I heal myself. How can I stay well so that I don’t have to die of cancer. And that gave me the push to try and understand what was going on inside of me. What were these conflicts. The conflict between being a free being, living my sexuality, and the strong issue of shame connected to my Catholic upbringing. It became an important aspect of survival for me.

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39. 01:23:36:28 - 01:24:29:00

Maggie:

I’m packing up some of my special favorite toys that I’m going to take to the seminar. The main thing I use is a plug-in vibrator. Magic Wand, which is just the best. With a vibrator, you can have ten orgasms, or twenty, or thirty. Or one that’s so huge that you’ve never had an experience like that before. For me it’s not that that’s the source of life, or that’s what we want to do, but I think it’s extremely important that women know what their sexual potential is. Most women have no idea what their sexual potential is. Because in our society we are told to be small, to be quiet, to not raise our voice, to be good little girls. These are not toys for good little girls. These are toys for women that really want to have some fun.

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40. 01:24:29:00 - 01:24:46:28

Narrator:

Mom never liked doing the same thing for too long. She was sick of dragging her teaching gear across Switzerland for the workshops. She was having petty arguments with the seminar house owners, and her grandson was due any day.

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41. 01:27:09:13 - 01:27:39:19

Maggie:

When it comes to actual sexual orientation, 99 percent of the women who do my work are heterosexual women who live in a partnership with a man. But when they’re in a room with other women, they’re in the moment, they’re living totally in this moment and feeling the sensuality that is there. It goes beyond the label, if you ask me. It’s no lesbianism. It’s human behavior.

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42. 01:27:44:24 - 1:28:08:20

Maggie:

I want to give women opportunities, or challenge women, again and again, to feel themselves. Feel their sensuality, feel their sexuality, and realize it’s really okay. But that doesn’t mean that the program is about learning how to have an orgasm, or learning how to do anything. It’s not that, it’s learning how to just really be myself.

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43. 01:28:20:27 - 01:29:13:10

Maggie:

I go into my own fear. I have my own fear programs around if I’m really free, will anyone continue to talk to me. If I don’t fit that picture of a good wife and a good citizen, will I be okay? And sometimes I feel like maybe I’m not going to be okay. Sometimes I feel like maybe I’m really full of shit. Maybe this is all just a crock of shit and I should just let the whole thing go. Then I wake up the next morning and I say, no, it’s not shit. This is what I believe in and if nobody wants to go along with me that’s okay. When all is said and done, I’m not necessarily trying to free other people, I’m trying to free myself. And by working with these themes with other like-minded women, I move more and more into my own freedom.

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44. 01:29:13:10 - 01:29:50:10

Narrator:

Although they both lived in Zurich, my mom and brother rarely saw each other. I knew she longed for a closer relationship with him. By now, the baby was ten days late and she had to leave to teach again.

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45. 01:29:50:17 - 01:29:56:02

Maggie (to Paula):

Yeah, this feels like his foot or something here …

Just wait, he’s going to start moving.

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46. 01:29:57:18 - 01:30:08:02

Narrator:

Meanwhile, Carl had major joint surgery and was completely absorbed in recovery. When I visited him a few weeks after his surgery, he was gaunt and exhausted.

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47. 01:30:08:02 - 01:30:22:05

Carl:

I got a new hip and two new knees, and so on, and a fixed toe because my bones were stiff.

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48. 01:30:22:05 - 01:30:26:27

Narrator:

Recovery was slow and the pain affected every part of his life.

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49. 01:30:47:05 - 01:32:49:03

Maggie:

When I first started working with one of my buddies who was doing a men’s workshop, and I stepped into this role of sacred prostitute, it was for me a mind-blowing experience. He created a ceremony, a temple, where there would be two priestesses that would meet the men. And the object of the game was healing of sexuality for men. I was absolutely riveted when I heard about this and wanted very much to be in that role of sacred prostitute. And within a very short time I was in that role and began to have the experience of being a sexual healer. And the beauty of that experience for me was really that it brought together these two aspects of myself. Seeing myself as a spiritual being, as a spiritual healer, and integrating the sexuality into that so that I became a sexual healer for men. Men would come in and I would just say: ‘I’m here for you’ and give them an opportunity for them to be with a women that didn’t want anything other than that they show their male energy, that they show themselves as a sexual man. Sometimes that was a very fulfilling wonderful thing, and sometimes is wasn’t. Sometimes men would lie in my arms and cry. And at a certain moment I realized that I was moving on. That it didn’t reflect anymore who I was, what I wanted to do, I was becoming more interested in what was going on with women. And then I turned the temple situation around so that instead of having women there serving the needs of men, I brought in men to serve the needs of the women.

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50. 01:32:54:27 - 01:34:10:10

Maggie:

So I met with the women to prepare them for the temple ritual. It’s really important how you frame it. How you talk to the women about what we’re gonna do. And when the women first hear that there’s going to be a situation like that, that there’s going to be men coming into our space and that they’re going to be in our service, they freak out, kind of. But at the same time, they’re totally excited. But I have to take time explaining that they’re not going to just do the number that they always do when they’re with men. In temple, they’re not going to talk, there’s no conversation, so you can’t seduce someone with your bright ideas or your cleverness or anything like that. They wear a mask so the other person is not seduced by how you look. What they are encouraged to do is just really feel the energy lf the men. So it’s not the father of your children, it’s not the one that’s going to pay the rent, it’s just someone representing male energy. This is, like, and unbelievable challenge for women.

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51. 01:34:39:10 - 01:34:52:04

Narrator:

The temple was the main attraction of mom’s work. She’d assembled a team of male sacred prostitutes and this time, a fourth would join them as a prostitute apprentice. We’d never seen the women so excited and nervous.

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52. 01:34:53:20 - 01:35:28:04

Women (speaking to Maggie):

So the assistant, he can’t …

He can’t do anything on his own. His master must give permission

Oh really?

He’s learning.

So if I decide I want the assistant, you’ll go to the master and…

Yes. I’d ask the master are you ready to give your apprentice a separate job? The master must decide. Maybe he watches, maybe he participates, who knows?

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53. 01:35:31:09 - 01:35:39:03

Narrator:

The men were just as wound up as the women. Although mom treated them like honored healers, it was hard to imagine them in that role just yet. 

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54. 01:35:45:00 - 01:36:06:14

Rene (speaking with the men):

Okay, I have lubricant, one of these, and one of these, and here’s one that kind of…

It hurts on the side.

No, it’s nice.

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55. 01:36:19:08 - 01:36:25:14

Rene (speaking with the men):

Jelly

That looks good.

Yes, it’s a good one.

It gags me, but I think it’s great.

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56. 01:36:42:22 - 01:37:21:02

Rene (master):

For me, it’s absolute fulfillment. I get confirmation about personal growth which brings me great pleasure. It’s nice to be able to come here and help others move forward. As a teacher, mentor. And the warmth and affection I get from the women, that’s the fulfillment. It’s not just the fucking.

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57. 01:37:21:02 - 01:37:26:23

Rene (speaking with the men):

You don’t recognize me, right?

It’s good, right?

It’s great.

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57. 01:39:08:16 - 01:39:11:29

1st woman in temple (to Maggie):

I want to be seduced, caressed, and stimulated.

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58. 01:39:35:05 - 01:39:37:20

2nd woman in temple (to Maggie):

I want to get tied up.

You want to get tied up?

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59. 01:42:55:00 - 01:43:20:21

Maggie:

Paula called, I think it was like two, or two thirty or something. The baby is here. She said ‘congratulations, you’re a grandmother.’ And she said, she sounded really good, she sounded a little bit wired, we need to get the details again because I probably got half of it all mixed up.

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60. 01:43:25:20 - 01:43:48:20

Arlo:

The midwife stood on one side and the doctor on the other and she had the back of the bed almost straight upright, so she was like sitting there, and she put one foot on each of their hips on each side, you know to pull her knees back really hard, so then she pushed, and pushed, and pushed. I mean her veins were sticking out and she was really purple in the face and I could see this little furry ball coming out.

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61. 01:43:48:23 - 01:44:06:15

Maggie:

The cutest thing was, Arlo was holding the baby, and he said: ‘you’re gonna really love this little guy,’ and then he said, ‘I already know exactly what to do to help him quiet down.’

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62. 01:43:10:20 - 01:44:28:10

Narrator:

Tim was born at a breakthrough time in the workshop. The temple usually brought on great catharsis for the women. Mom went through the motions of teaching, but I caught her more than once getting misty-eyed over the photos we’d taken of her newborn grandson.

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63. 01:44:32:15 - 01:44:42:15

Narrator:

Mom resisted the temptation to cut her seminar short and did her best to stay focused. The women, on the other hand, had experienced all kinds of epiphanies in the temple.

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64. 01:44:43:00 - 01:45:08:05

Red-haired woman:

I’m very touched and filled with love and thankfulness for this male energy and toward you. These are tears of joy.

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65. 01:45:13:08 - 01:45:23:22

Ursula:

It was simply great. Thank you for giving us this candy that we will suck on for a long time.

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66. 01:45:23:22 - 01:46:01:16

Woman with glasses:

In the threesome it was like a birthday, Christmas, and Easter, all together. It was huge. Also, there were moments of realizing, aha, this is how it feels to be second choice. And to realize: I’m not used to this. With men I’m always first choice.

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67. 01:46:23:20 - 01:46:38:00

Narrator:

As soon as possible, mom took off to meet Tim. It was love at first sight. Their bond grew with each hour they spent together. My brother was in shock: ‘can you believe she loves him so much?’ he’d ask me.

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68. 01:46:46:27 - 01:47:13:10

Narrator:

By the end of the year, mom said she felt burned out and ready to quit. The work had lost its magic for her. And unfortunately, I felt the same. I just couldn’t get past the contractions. On the one hand, she helped women change their lives. On the other hand, she waged this secret anti-aging battle against herself that seemed to undermine everything she taught.

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69. 01:47:15:10 - 01:47:32:15

Narrator:

For many of the women, the year had been transformative. They were excited to get home and change their lives. Heidi, along with her husband and three kids, packed up her belongings and moved into a commune.

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70. 01:47:34:07 - 01:48:05:09

Heidi:

What attracted me most was the idea of releasing burdens of the past. But I imagined grief, and pain, and suffering. But I thought: yes, I’d still like to do it. And it wasn’t anything like that. It really is a path of joy. There’s space for suffering but it’s not the focus. I really do feel more authentic, more lustful, and like I am following a new path.

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71. 01:48:07:10 - 01:48:15:05

Narrator:

Ursula felt fearless and excited and continued seeking out new adventures. Later that year, she partnered with mom on her web business.

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72. 01:48:15:05 - 01:48:30:08

Ursula:

My vision is to discover my inner wealth and my vow is to joyfully celebrate my life

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73. 01:48:30:08 - 01:48:45:23

Maggie:

Dearest Lilith receive this symbol of your transformation, of your growth and expansion into the fullness …

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74. 01:48:45:23 - 01:48:50:13

Narrator:

Lilith was conflicted and struggled with her boyfriend throughout the year.

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75. 01:48:51:13 - 01:49:33:02

Lilith:

It’s for me very difficult to find words for what I experienced and, um, it is not easy in my relationship, is one of the things, me going this path and him living with me but not seeing, participating in, the process we go through here. So for sure it’s difficult for him to understand. I’m scared too that because I did this work, now the relationship is in danger.

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76. 01:49:33:02 - 01:49:38:0

Narrator:

She became mom’s assistant and about a year later, broke up with Claus.

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77. 01:49:35:02 - 01:49:52:02

Narrator:

Mom and Natalie’s relationship didn’t survive the year. They locked horns about mom’s leadership style and finally called the friendship quits. She still works as a photographer and self-defense instructor.

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78. 01:49:54:20 - 01:50:09:10

Narrator:

One thing was clear for me: mom’s work changed women’s lives. Even if I couldn’t reconcile the contradictions, the women walked away empowered. This, I realized, is the priceless gift mom offered.

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79. 01:50:16:21 - 01:50:29:00

Narrator:

Watching her battle her own mortality, the year--and our film--came into perspective: it was time to make peace with the fact that she, just like the rest of us, is only human.

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80. 01:50:30:00 - 01:52:39:09

Maggie:

I was very much struggling with letting of middle age, or letting go of a time in my life when I was interacting very intensively with men. I understood intellectually that this time was coming but somehow I have been catapulted in the last year into the reality of this change. My husband is almost seventy years old, um, we had a great sex life together, but the reality is, we have less, and less, and less sex. I was putting my entire relationship, a seventeen-year relationship, on the line over this sexual issue. Over this sexual insecurity that I was having. We were fighting to a point where it was like we were going to separate. Live in separate houses, divorce, or I don’t know what. We were … it was impossible for us to continue. And then I began to look at all of the stuff I do to be loved and appreciated by men: having a facelift, dressing a certain way, wearing uncomfortable shoes, doing all kinds of things, not even in a playful way. Really much more in an intensive, passionate way in order to be loved by men. I had this deep desire to release everything that was holding me, like getting out of jail. I went in my closet and started cleaning out old stuff. I took out all the sexy clothes, my corsets, my silk stockings, my costumes, my wigs, my high-heel shoes. And I took out the razor and shaved my head, shaved my pubic hair, shaved every part of hair that I could off my body, cut my toenails, my fingernails. I just wanted to release all that old stuff to make space to start something new.

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81. 01:53:05:23 - 01:53:31:24

Maggie:

The reality is, as soon as I stopped pushing like that, we started actually being intimate. It just doesn’t look like it did twenty years ago; it doesn’t for anybody. It’s like our sex feels like an expression of how much we love each other, instead of my idea of what I need to have as proof that I’m okay. 

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82. 01:53:33:00 - 01:53:58:00

Carl:

Things feel stable and feel strong. Because we went through a lot of storms, and blizzards, and how do you say, blazing fires, and so on. And we found out that these storms would not shake things.

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83. 01:54:12:04 - 01:54:44:11

Maggie:

This transition into a next phase in my life where something new is coming, something new is evolving, Tim is for me, he’s like this new life that’s starting. And it’s full of intimacy and I feel so comfortable in that role, you know? I started to not feel comfortable in the role of my intensive, intensive involvement with sexuality. 

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84. 01:54:57:11 - 01:55:25:06

Maggie:

My responsibility toward him is to just love him. And that’s probably … I’m sorry I’m getting so emotional … that’s the next chapter of my life … oh geez … to learn about love. I know all about sex and now I’m learning about love.

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Credits:

Produced and directed by: Sarah Gonser and Lance Kruger

Executive produced by: Susannah Ludwig

Edited by: Lance Kruger

Written and narrated by: Sarah Gonser

Photographed by: Lance Kruger

Original music composed by: Quentin Jennings

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Production Company: Glasseater Productions

 

 

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